Individuals may experience a certain amount of anxiety the first time they participate in a tantric massage, this is completely natural as you are allowing your body and mind to connect with a new person in ways you have never done before. You may also feel shy, perhaps because you have not been used to being so intimate with someone before.
Professional and trained massage therapists understand that not everyone will have the same experience with Tantra and will always make sure that you feel as welcome and comfortable as possible. If you have any concerns or medical conditions, be sure to discuss them with the masseuse before you begin.
You do not need to take anything with you as most massage salons will have everything available to you upon your arrival, including showers in case you want to remove the oils from your body. Not all massage salons have showers available although not to worry, the oil does try fairly quickly and you will therefore not be returning home in greasy clothing. It is recommended though to wear clothing that is very light and breathable instead of heavy clothing that might get a little greasy. If your clothing happens to get stained, it is very easily washable due to all oils being used are completely natural without any difficulties coming off during washing.
What happens before you begin?
The masseuse will welcome you, commonly with a glass of water or maybe even a sweet treat such as chocolate. Very rarely you might get sweet treats or beverages although more commonly if you let them know it is your first time experience. Sweet treats are often given to treat being light headed. This can happen during deep tissue massages that require more pressure being applied to muscles as well as joints, as the blood circulation increases, you might get a little light headed. This is completely natural and nothing to worry about as these effects take place only for a few minutes and after they naturally and gradually disappear.
You will then proceed with your welcoming session where the masseuse gets to know more about you and your expectations from your visit. The welcoming session is often around thirty minutes long although this can vary depending also on previous agreement with the masseuse.
After the welcoming session has finished and the masseuse is familiar with what she is going to work on, the massage may begin.
The processes taken during a tantra massage
During the first few minutes of the tantra massage, you are going to be wrapped in a sarong, this is a cloth that is wrapped around you and the masseuse during the time of the massage. You are also able to stay in your underwear although it is not advised as it is going to be less comfortable and it might get stained with oil. If you do choose to stay in underwear, just make sure to bring an extra pair with you.
First, the masseuse will begin to teach you breathing techniques, you will face each other, your bodies will be physically and mentally connected, and you will begin to learn breathing techniques that will also help you relax your entire body throughout the massage. Breathing techniques are especially important if you are feeling overwhelmed or anxious during the massage; controlled breathing helps to set the right mood and lower your heart rate.
Following the breathing techniques, the masseuse will begin to look into your eyes for a more erotic and deeper experience. This can become very intimate and you may also feel a deep spiritual connection with the masseuse. While looking into each other's eyes, the masseuse will begin to slowly massage your erogenous zones, where the massage is completely dedicated to experiencing a deep connection between two bodies in a non-judgmental environment. An orgasm is never the goal of a professional Tantra massage. If it happens, it is completely normal and natural and definitely nothing to be ashamed of.
The masseuse will usually create a very welcoming environment for you, where if anything embarrassing happens, the masseuse will fully understand and not make you feel embarrassed.
Massages range from anything from one hour usually up to four hours. It is not recommended to get a one hour massage though as the time goes by very quickly and your body usually needs a longer time to relax. If you have the extra money to spend, it is advisable to go for at least two hours, although the best time would be three, since about one hour is just the beginning and then you have two hours of dedicated massage time. Four hours can be very long for new clients, as you may feel dizzy from the increased stimulation over a longer period of time.
Q & A
What if I get aroused during the tantra massage?
It is completely natural and normal to become aroused during the tantra massage due to the masseuse touching your erogenous zones. It is nothing to be ashamed of and every professional masseuse will never address it in any inappropriate manner.
May I mutually touch the masseuse during the massage?
Whether you can touch the masseuse or not depends all on the boundaries that are communicated between the masseuse and the client before the massage takes place. It is very important to respect boundaries and ask for consent before doing anything that has not been discussed. Tantra is not an erotic massage where mutual touches are common and therefore very often, masseuses will not accept erotic touching, instead they focus on meaningful touches such as holding hands or hugging.
Does tantra involve a happy ending?
Tantric massages performed by professionals do not focus on happy endings. A tantra massage will focus on erogenous zones as well as different types of tantric massages such as the lingam massage. During this massage there is a possibility that you will have an orgasm although this is never the main focus of the massage.
Do I have to be fully naked during the massage?
At the beginning you are wrapped in a sarong, a type of clothing that is very comfortable and light that is gradually slowly taken off of you. If you do not wish to be naked afterwards, it is important to address this to the masseuse. It is advised to not wear any underwear since it tends to decrease the overall stimulation from the tantric massage. Also, it will most likely get stained from the oils being used.
How old do you have to be to get a tantric massage?
All individuals must be over the age of 18 to receive a tantric massage or to learn at seminars, a client that has not reached this age will be kindly asked to leave.
May I visit a tantra massage salon with my spouse?
You are more than welcome to experience tantra together with your spouse, you will have two masseuses focusing on both of you at the same time, often lying next to each other.
Is the masseuse going to be naked during the tantric massage?
Unless discussed previously directly with the masseuse, the masseuse is never going to be naked during a professional tantric massage. She will be wearing a sarong and as the massage proceeds, she might be in underwear, although this is not always the case. Masseuses are often naked in erotic massages, during body to body massages that are very separate to tantric massages.
